Fear is a disease. Fear is as pernicious as anemia, if you let it spread through your mind.
The most insidious part of fear is the fact that you don’t even recognize it. It does not have to be that sour, knotted sensation in your stomach. It does not have to be that dry catch of breath rising into your throat. That is the insidious nature of it. It can hide behind rationalization and be buried in denial.
“She can be so catty!”
“He can be such a jerk!”
“She won’t listen to the truth.”
Judgments such as these are cleverly disguised forms of fear. They deviously mask your own issues. Once they take hold, they spread into gossip and infect others. If you can recognize them, you can stop the spread of deadly infection. You can heal from your disease of fear and you can be healthy.
First, recognize the symptom of judgment. You judge others because they are highlighting your low self-esteem. They are the disguised gifts of self-realization as they mirror your issues back to you. Sound harsh? It is. Because, you are hurting yourself. So, stop being so harsh with yourself. Stop using words to judge others in order to make you feel better, and more superior. Stop unwittingly sacrificing others so your ego can feel worthy.
It’s easier than you think. Recognize the pronouns. Yes, every time you say “He” or “She” or even “You” at the beginning of a sentence, it’s your first clue you are coming from a position of fear. When you recognize it, you can begin to become more aware of it. When you are aware of it, you can begin to take steps in stopping it. I like to think of it as a gesture, as if you are pointing to that person you are judging. One finger points towards them and four back towards yourself. You are really speaking to yourself.
Two, reframe the judgment. Reframe the criticism. It is never about someone else. It is always about you. So, “She can be so critical!” has a second, deeper meaning, relative to you. What is this really saying about you? Are you overly critical, too? Is your esteem low enough so you need to diss others to feel worthy of being alive? It’s all about fear; the fear of not being good enough.
Three, be kind to yourself. You are breaking free of decades of deep behavioral patterns. It will take time, effort and diligence to leave it behind. Work on yourself, and others will change. Release your fear and life becomes magical. It’s like doing a colon cleanse. Take a wellness powder. Take a vitamin tablet. Break the spiral into the disease of fear.
Joyce M. Jackson, the Sane Psychic,is Your Guide on the SANE Side. She is a renowned San Francisco Bay Area based Psychic, Psychic Medium, Huna and Toltec trained Shamanic Practitioner, Usui and Toltec Nagual Reiki Master.She uniquely brings a calm, reassuring message in easy, simple terms for clarity to your life questions. She makes the psychic chaos clear. She delivers guidance with compassion and warmth through her ability to inspire real understanding and transformation to confused by unclear emotions and experiences. Read more and book your personal session with Joyce at The Sane Psychic.